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What She Said: 9 Things that Turn Women Off

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Turn-Offs For Women

Want to turn your woman on, and keep her turned on? Then be aware of what turns her off.

Top Turn-offs for women:

These are some things that women have specifically expressed that turn them off quickly when they meet or date a guy:

1. Men Who Don’t stick to their word 

There is a reason why we started with this one. It’s not that a guy cannot commit to a woman, it’s as if he can’t commit to anything.

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It’s like a man says they want to meet you at a place or call you at a certain time, but then nothing.

No show and no call. We all realize that plans change, so a little message of communication saying that you can’t make it or can’t call will go a long way. Alongside bailing last moment, showing up late is instantly unattractive as well.

This shows women where your priorities are. Remember, it only takes little planning to show up on time.

READ: 7 Signs They’re Lying To You

2. The “Know-it-All”

If a man knows everything and can’t learn anything from anybody, then what are you around for? Plus, there is a way to correct a woman without making her feel stupid or unuseful.

A true woman (not a “sugar-baby” looking to only be taken care of financially) wants to contribute someway and not only feel wanted but needed. As a man, if you find yourself always saying “I know, I know” or “yeah, I did that” then you might find yourself by yourself pretty soon.

3. Bad breath

This falls under a large umbrella of bad hygiene. If you have bad breath, chances are you have terrible hygiene too. She will be thinking “Stay the hell away from me” if your breath or body stinks.

Don’t be surprised women find this to be one of the biggest turn-offs ever. Go brush your teeth or at least pop a mint in your mouth. Also, if you have

gum, be sure to not smack on gum around her. That’s a turn off too!

4. Texting Her to Death 

If all you can think of is to “What you doing?” and “Good morning Beautiful” texting her to death will get her because it worked before, stop right there.

Today’s women will not fall for your lack of effort when it comes to communication. Remember to set yourself apart by possibly calling (yes, people still talk on the phone) and sending a message to her job (if you’ve reached that point) or even giving her a card.

All of the little things in communication add up to big points in your favor.

READ: How to Manage Relationship Fatigue

5. Having no sense of humor

Whether you realize it or not, humor is critical to your success with women. In fact, a sense of humor usually tops a woman’s attraction wish list and is one of the best ways to turn her on.

6. Lying for no reason 

Now, I’ve been here before. Sometimes, a little white lie or two never hurt anyone, right? Well, wrong!

In a woman’s mind, she’s keeping a tally of how many little lies you have told her that she found out about that you don’t even know she knows about!

Those little lies tell her that this man can’t be trusted with the big things and makes her

wonder what else you may be lying about.

7. Lack of confidence 

Women want their men to lead the way, protect them and make them feel secure. Constantly listing all your faults, feeling sorry for yourself and complaining about your circumstances are sure-fire ways to turn a woman off and make her stay away from you for good.

8. No Initiative/Goals

One of the things that turns a woman off the most is when a man is lacking in action and initiative toward her and toward his pursuit of her.

Men, the ladies aren’t looking for you to do all the work, but they are expecting you to be 50% of the relationship…and to do your part. You are half of the relationship, so you need to be giving just as much as you’re receiving.

A man who lacks work ethic, motivation, and drive, is a huge turn-off for the average woman. A woman is looking for someone who is going to keep up with her, not someone she has to drag behind her through life.

READ: 5 Signs You’re In A Healthy Relationship

9. Not making his intentions clear

Nine times out of 10 you’ve probably heard from a woman or her girls that say, “just be honest about what you want.”

For many men, that goes in one ear and right out the other. For the most part, men don’t believe that they can be honest with a woman when he just wants sex. But being honest and upfront from the beginning might get you what you want.

Also, be sure to keep being honest throughout your relationship too–no matter what kind of relationship you have.

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